Forgiveness & Repair
In the Realm of Relationships & Lineage
1: Begin a conversation of repair or forgiveness, naming what still lingers from the past. If helpful, invite a trusted neutral person to support or witness.
1: Begin a conversation of repair or forgiveness, naming what still lingers from the past. If helpful, invite a trusted neutral person to support or witness.Books 📚
- Radical Compassion – by Tara Brach: Learning to Love Yourself and Your World with the Practice of RAIN (Recognize, Allow, Investigate, Nurture). Discover sources of love, forgiveness, compassion, and deep wisdom alive within all of us.
- The Book of Forgiving – by Desmond Tutu & Mpho Tutu: After much reflection on the process of forgiveness, Tutu has seen that there are four important steps to healing: Admitting the wrong and acknowledging the harm; Telling one’s story and witnessing the anguish; Asking for forgiveness and granting forgiveness; and renewing or releasing the relationship.
- Ho’oponopono – the Hawaiian Ritual of Forgiveness – by Ulrich Dupree: Explores the process of practical forgiveness and how to use Ho‘oponopono to transform personal problems, resolve relationship conflicts, and heal the past.
- Ho’oponopono & Family Constellations – by Ulrich Dupree: wow – bringing together Hawaiian tradition with a modern Family Constellations approach leads to some new and interesting places in the realm of forgiveness.
Podcasts or AUDIO 🎧
- WISEHEART Podcast – Relationships as Spiritual Practice: this podcast is from Wiseheart Mindful Compassionate Dialogue (MCD), which has similarities to NVC but takes a different approach. Very worth diving into this podcast. Find your way to the forgiveness and repair episodes.
Video Channels 🎦
- NVC Academy YouTube Channel: Non-Violent Communication – good videos here looking into various aspects of NVC dialogue for repair, healing, forgiveness, families, work, and more… Some really good “How to have a conversation” videos.
2: Create forgiveness rituals and rituals of letting go.
Books 📚
- Ho’oponopono – the Hawaiian Ritual of Forgiveness – by Ulrich Dupree: Explores the process of practical forgiveness and how to use Ho‘oponopono to transform personal problems, resolve relationship conflicts, and heal the past.
- Ho’oponopono & Family Constellations – by Ulrich Dupree: Wow! Bringing together Hawaiian tradition with a modern Family Constellations approach leads to some new and interesting places in the realm of forgiveness.
- The Power of Ritual – by Casper Ter Kuile: explores how we can nourish our souls by transforming common, everyday practices―yoga, reading, walking the dog―into sacred rituals.
- The Language of Letting Go – by Melody Beattie: each day is an opportunity for growth and renewal. Written for those working on co-dependency but applies well to the concept of just letting go.
- The Book of Ceremony – by Sandra Ingerman: presents a rich and practical resource for creating ceremonies filled with joy, purpose, and magic.
Podcasts or AUDIO 🎧
- Detachment – Let them, let it – guided meditation: from A Zen Mind Podcast.
- How to Let Go of What you Can’t Control & Redirect Your Energy: from the Mel Robbins Podcast. If you feel a sense of overwhelm, dread, or uncertainty right now, you need to hear this episode.
Websites / Articles 🌐
- Simple ceremonies – The Art of Forgiveness: great suggestions and truly simple ceremonies.
- What is cord-cutting and how to do it – good article on Insight Timer.
3: Explore meditations, podcasts and books that guide you in forgiveness.
Books & AudioBooks 📚
- Radical Compassion – by Tara Brach: Learning to Love Yourself and Your World with the Practice of RAIN (Recognize, Allow, Investigate, Nurture). Discover sources of love, forgiveness, compassion, and deep wisdom alive within all of us.
- The Book of Forgiving – by Desmond Tutu & Mpho Tutu: After much reflection on the process of forgiveness, Tutu has seen that there are four important steps to healing: Admitting the wrong and acknowledging the harm; Telling one’s story and witnessing the anguish; Asking for forgiveness and granting forgiveness; and renewing or releasing the relationship.
- Ho’oponopono – the Hawaiian Ritual of Forgiveness – by Ulrich Dupree: Explores the process of practical forgiveness and how to use Ho‘oponopono to transform personal problems, resolve relationship conflicts, and heal the past.
- The Book of Ho’oponopono: The Hawaiian Practice of Forgiveness and Healing – by Luc Bodin: Based on an ancestral Hawaiian shamanic ritual, the healing practice of Ho’oponopono teaches you to cleanse your consciousness of negative memories, unconscious fears, and dysfunctional programming and grant yourself forgiveness, peace, and love.
Websites / Orgs / Resources 🌐
- Center for Non-Violent Communication (NVC): there are sooooo many resources here to level up your communication skills through training, articles, courses, events, and much more!
Podcasts 🎧
- WISEHEART Podcast – Relationships as Spiritual Practice: this podcast is from Wiseheart Mindful Compassionate Dialogue (MCD), which has similarities to NVC but takes a different approach. Very worth diving into this podcast.
Video Meditations or Guides 🎦
- Forgiveness Guided Meditation: 24-minute quality meditation to forgive yourself and others.
- 15-Minute Medition on Forgiveness & Self Love: nice meditation from Boho Beautiful Meditation.
- Jack Kornfield Forgiveness Meditation: 10-minute live-recording with Jack. A really good meditation.
- 1-Hour Hypnosis for Releasing Anger and Resentment with Guided Forgiveness: Love this hypnosis session. Meant to be seated in a quiet place with eyes closed.
4: If you wish to make repair, explore books, courses or training in conflict resolution, reconciliation, or mediation.
Books & Workbooks 📚
- Say What You Mean – by Oren Jay Sofer: Find your voice, speak your truth, listen deeply—a guide to having more meaningful and mindful conversations through nonviolent communication.
- The Mindful Guide to Conflict Resolution – by Rosalie Puiman: Successfully handle difficult conversations, remain civil, and end an argument peacefully with this straightforward and mindful guide to conflict resolution.
Websites / Resources / Training 🌐
- Conflict Resolution Network: OMG – tons of resources! Learn, reinforce and teach conflict resolution skills with their definitive resources on conflict resolution.
- The Art of NVC Online Training: Turn conflict into connection. Take the course, use the resources, lots of good info here.
- WISEHEART – What is Mindful Compassionate Dialogue?: cultivate a sense of mastery in understanding and navigating relationships with MCD.
Podcasts 🎧
- Resolve Conflict – Everyone Can Win Podcast Series: Conflict Resolution Network’s 12 skill approach. It has been tested and refined over many years to support you having better relationships and better outcomes at home, at work and in the community.
- WISEHEART Podcast – Relationships as Spiritual Practice: this podcast is from Wiseheart Mindful Compassionate Dialogue (MCD), which has similarities to NVC but takes a different approach. Very worth diving into this podcast.
5: Explore utilizing the transformational Ho’oponopono (Native Hawaiian) practice to apologize and make repair.
Books 📚
- Ho’oponopono – the Hawaiian Ritual of Forgiveness – by Ulrich Dupree: Explores the process of practical forgiveness and how to use Ho‘oponopono to transform personal problems, resolve relationship conflicts, and heal the past.
- Ho’oponopono & Family Constellations – by Ulrich Dupree: Wow! Bringing together Hawaiian tradition with a modern Family Constellations approach leads to some new and interesting places in the realm of forgiveness.
- The Book of Ho’oponopono: The Hawaiian Practice of Forgiveness and Healing – by Luc Bodin: Based on an ancestral Hawaiian shamanic ritual, the healing practice of Ho’oponopono teaches you to cleanse your consciousness of negative memories, unconscious fears, and dysfunctional programming and grant yourself forgiveness, peace, and love.
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Restorative Justice Recalibrated – by
Osborn, Alexis
: These are not just theoretical ideas, but actionable steps that can empower people to heal their trauma, take responsibility for the harm they’ve caused, and contribute to community resilience.
Videos 🎦
- Ho’oponopono – Inner Child Guided Meditation – by Dr. Ihaleakela Hew Len
- Ho’oponopono for Self love & Radical Forgiveness – by Sandra Rolus: 35-minute meditation
- Ho’oponopono Guided Meditation for Generational Healing and Ancestral Clearing – by Roy Gan: 28-minute meditation. Really good meditation as it breaks down the practice into deeper parts with more full meaning. Taking responsibility for harm.