Consent
In the Realm of CORE VALUES
1: Read some powerful books to familiarize yourself with the language of informed consent and the Wheel of Consent.
1: Read some powerful books to familiarize yourself with the language of informed consent and the Books
- The Art of Giving & Receiving – by Betty Martin: The book on the Wheel of Consent. Marvelously open and welcoming prose style, clearly breaking down her concepts in order to help her readers construct a new idea of what touching is—and, by extension, sex and all issues of consent.
- Ask – Building Consent Culture – by Kitty Stryker: Violating consent isn’t limited to sexual relationships, and our discussions around consent shouldn’t be, either. Examine how a cultural politic centered on consent can empower us outside the bedroom, whether it’s at the doctor’s office, interacting with law enforcement, or calling out financial abuse within radical communities.
- Consent Laid Bare – by Chanel Contos: Sex, Entitlement, and the Distortion of Desire. A message of fostering empathy that is especially urgent in the face of rising rates of toxic messaging of all types in our global culture.
Videos
– these intro videos will lead you to many other videos. Send us your favorites.
Podcasts
- Grow as We Grow Podcast Episode on The Wheel of Consent: The wheel of consent is a way to understand human interaction. In this podcast, we dive into what the wheel of consent looks like from an intimate relationship perspective, but this can be used as a source for any human interaction.
- I Do Consent Podcast: they say more episodes are in the works. Discussions on consent in various contexts with consent thought leaders.
Websites
- The School of Consent: training and other resources based on the Wheel of Consent model. Great place to start if you want to really dive in to this topic.
- Authentic Consent Facilitator Training: AASECT Training – Whether you’re an educator, mental health professional, or simply someone who wants to become more informed about consent, this course is for you.
2: Make a shift to using consent-based language in your relationships. For example, try asking, ‘Are you open to a hug?’ instead of ‘Can I give you a hug?” 🌈
Books
- The Art of Giving & Receiving – by Betty Martin: The book on the Wheel of Consent. Marvelously open and welcoming prose style, clearly breaking down her concepts in order to help her readers construct a new idea of what touching is—and, by extension, sex and all issues of consent.
- Ask – Building Consent Culture – by Kitty Stryker: Violating consent isn’t limited to sexual relationships, and our discussions around consent shouldn’t be, either. Examine how a cultural politic centered on consent can empower us outside the bedroom, whether it’s at the doctor’s office, interacting with law enforcement, or calling out financial abuse within radical communities.
- Consent Laid Bare – by Chanel Contos: Sex, Entitlement, and the Distortion of Desire. A message of fostering empathy that is especially urgent in the face of rising rates of toxic messaging of all types in our global culture.
Videos
– these intro videos will lead you to many other videos. Send us your favorites.
- For the Wild – Episode on The Language of Consent: an hour with Betty Martin on the language we use in consent culture.
- Betty Martin Draws & Explains the Wheel of Consent
- The Wheel of Consent Explained
- Understanding Consent in a Sexual Context
- Navigating the Grey Area of Consent – TEDx Talk with Emily Nestor
Podcasts
- Grow as We Grow Podcast Episode on The Wheel of Consent: The wheel of consent is a way to understand human interaction. In this podcast, we dive into what the wheel of consent looks like from an intimate relationship perspective, but this can be used as a source for any human interaction.
- I Do Consent Podcast: they say more episodes are in the works. Discussions on consent in various contexts with consent thought leaders.
Websites & Training
- The School of Consent: training and other resources based on the Wheel of Consent model. Great place to start if you want to really dive in to this topic.
- Authentic Consent Facilitator Training: AASECT Training – Whether you’re an educator, mental health professional, or simply someone who wants to become more informed about consent, this course is for you.
- RAINN – Consent 101 – Respect, Boundaries and Building Trust: Lots of info and resources in this 101 and on the RAINN website.
3: Attend an online or in-person Wheel of Consent workshop. 🌈
Available Training in Consent
- The School of Consent: training and other resources based on the Wheel of Consent model. Great place to start if you want to really dive in to this topic.
- Authentic Consent Facilitator Training: AASECT Training – Whether you’re an educator, mental health professional, or simply someone who wants to become more informed about consent, this course is for you.
- Coursera Online Consent Training Course – Let’s Talk Consent… The concepts of consent, permission, boundaries…
- Consent Wizardry: All types of training and a thorough consent model beyond sex and touch.
4: Listen to podcasts about consent in different social and cultural contexts. 🌈
Podcasts
- I Do Consent Podcast: they say more episodes are in the works. Discussions on consent in various contexts with consent thought leaders.
- Grow as We Grow Podcast Episode on The Wheel of Consent: The wheel of consent is a way to understand human interaction. In this podcast, we dive into what the wheel of consent looks like from an intimate relationship perspective, but this can be used as a source for any human interaction.
- Teach Us Consent Podcast: get confident with consent in sex and relationships one conversation at at time.
- Culture of Consent Podcast – from Seattle Public Schools: Aimed for school staff and caring adults, Culture of Consent focuses on creating a safe and welcoming environment for young people. Listen to discover how you can create a culture of consent in your community.
Videos
- For the Wild – Episode on The Language of Consent: an hour with Betty Martin on the language we use in consent culture.
5: Learn the language of consent to teach children about boundaries and empower future generations. 🌈
Books
- Yes! No! A First Conversation About Consent – by Makai Kellogg: Consent is a big deal for 3 to 5-year-old students. As a population who navigates their days around people who exert power — both peers and adults — conversations about consent are critical for building a safe classroom environment
- Consent (for kids): Boundaries, Respect, and Being in Charge of YOU – by Rachel Brian: Readers will learn about boundaries and how to set them; ways to respect themselves and others; what to do if someone makes them feel uncomfortable or unsafe; and much more.
- Will Ladybug Hug? – by Hillary Leung: Ladybug is getting ready to go on a trip and wants to say good-bye to her friends. . . but will her friends want to receive a hug? Seven Realms loves this one for kids because hugging is such a charged thing in modern psychedelic retreat spaces, where there may be consent practices adopted around touch or not at all. It’s wonderful to see children’s resource about these themes.
- Don’t Hug Doug (He doesn’t like it) – by Carrie Finison: Doug doesn’t like hugs. He thinks hugs are too squeezy, too squashy, too squooshy, too smooshy. He doesn’t like hello hugs or goodbye hugs… Another great kids book that deals with consent language from the hugging perspective!!!
Card Deck for Teens
- Things to Know Before You Say “Go” – by Elsbeth Martindale: FOR TEENS – powerful questions before you give your heart away. A structure for introspection and discussion for teens around teenage relationships.